In life break ups happen, it’s all apart of our growing process. For example, when most end a failed relationship they think that they wasted a certain amount of time of their lives. No relationship is ever a waste of a time, each fallen one is a lesson of what to expect and better for the one that is truly meant for you. Once we realize that, we can understand the fact that men and women can be friends after a bad breakup, it just takes time.
However, there are some cases where the two cannot get past the break up and end up cutting each other out. So coming from a woman’s perspective, here are a few reasons why women can tend to ruin a good friendship, aside from attraction.
1. Criticizing what he did wrong.
Sometimes as women, we don’t realize our own faults for why a relationship failed. We blame the guy for everything. Either he stopped doing what he did to get us or the communication slipped. We don’t stop and think if we stopped doing our part as well, or if we hesitated in telling him what we had on our mind. Sometimes we try and wait for the “right time” to tell our significant other what’s bothering us when in actuality, there is no perfect time. The longer we drag something on the messier things get and are harder to fix.
Who wants a nagging friend? No one. So when we constantly “nag” and ask him for answers when he basically gave us a simple and short answer, this gives him the impression that not only are you an annoying ex-girlfriend but an annoying friend as well. If the nagging continues, he’ll slowly cut you off for good. When he says he doesn’t want to be friends with you at the present time, accept that and move on. Occupy yourself with hobbies that you enjoy and focus on you. In due time, you guys will be friends again. Just don’t ruin it when that time comes. Keep a casual and healthy friendship. No force.
3. The two of you were seasonal.
Some people come into your life for a lifetime, others for just a season or two. Just because someone walks out of your life, it is not the end of the world. Take what you learned in this relationship and apply the changes to the next. Sometimes God places someone in our lives for us to learn more about ourselves. If they are meant to stay as a good friend then cool, if not then oh well. Don’t force something that’s not meant to be.