It’s Time: Do Different. Get Different. Be Different

Watching someone’s life be destroyed on a national level gives me so many emotions…. shocking, frustrating, sad, but most of all unbelievable. Everyday I am amazed at how the majority of our society just doesn’t care for the next man. The selfishness and stubborn nature of this entire country has placed us in a dire situation of self destruction just to claim self-preservation. Yeah, it makes no sense because there is absolutely none behind it. The fact that less people see the bigger picture before acting or reacting clearly shows the mindset of the ‘microwave society’, instant gratification or results. Nobody is to blame but US, as a nation we have become FOLLOWERS instead of LEADERS. Just listen to the music on the radio today, it ALL sounds alike. Then when you turn on the TV what do you see, multiple REALITY shows that surprisingly have the same REALITY. Now, how does that work? I mean, if I’m living MY LIFE in MY LANE and you are doing the same how is it that the life you portray mirrors the life I portray. If you know me then you know my stance on Reality TV…I do NOT support it. I don’t understand WHY people take money to be on a show with created situations that result in you showcasing your ignorance repeatedly NOT your growth, your maturity from a situation, or even the lessons you have learned. Instead it gives you a platform to stay ignorant, angry, and uneducated. I say all of this to speak on MY OPINION of the Evelyn and Ocho domestic violence situation that erupted on Social media sites a few weeks ago.

Let me start by saying that there is ALWAYS 3 sides to every story, your side, their side, and the truth. NO ONE but God will ever know what really happened. Now, I’ve read a few articles, seen a few posts on Facebook and Twitter, even listened to the 911 call and my verdict is it was a misunderstanding that got a little out of hand BUT was definitely NOT worth the publicity nor the destruction of life that followed the media outburst. You see the media hypes things up and I don’t completely blame radio and TV because that’s their job. To bring you the news whether it’s leading, all facts, or a complete fabrication. I do hold them accountable for what they decide is news and then I’m holding YOU accountable for sucking it in and spitting it back out with ignorance. This situation is why domestic violence is still a real issue in this country. People take something as small as a grape, make it a plum, and before you know it, it’s a full bottle of wine being thrown at someone. By that point nobody remembers the grape it’s all just entertainment now. Just like the situation with Chris Brown and Rihanna. Everyone went all in on Ocho and Chris but no one noticed that Domestic Violence organizations around the country were NOT asking for Rihanna or Evelyn to be spokespersons for their cause, you know why, because their situation was a misunderstanding situation that got out of control, an isolated incident that went too far. Meanwhile there are women out here that deal with abuse on a daily, sometimes multiple times a day that can in no way relate to these women and still see no reason to get help from their situation. So while they are eating up the limelight by releasing albums, selling books, staring in reality TV shows, and doing interviews real victims of abuse are still suffering and probably thinking that it’s a joke to everyone else.

So, here we are, a man that has no repetitive behavior of abuse, and yes I know about the incident with his exover 10 years ago, he has been arrested, lost his job, and daily loosing his source of income to provide for his family being labeled as a ‘woman beater’ by the media and others. Evelyn is gearing up to do an interview with Oprah and taping the next season of Basketball wives. No one sees the real problem here? I’m not blaming Evelyn but I am holding her accountable for her actions before, during, and after. I in NO WAY agree that a man should harm a woman physically!!!!!! No ifs, ands, buts, or situation will warrant that type of behavior. I do hold US accountable because money talks and ignorance prevails while values are lost and people want to blame it all on a society that WE created. I’m so ready for this era to be over so that can we handle substance and learn how to agree to disagree without the death of someone. WAKE UP and start LIVING OUT LOUD it’s time for educated, unbiased, with no agenda voices to be heard!!!!!!!

Nakeisha "Moca" McDaniel
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This column is designed to doing just what the title says...Living Out Loud. Moca will discuss and give advice about life and everything that comes along with it. She is an ordinary woman with extraordinary insight. I'm very opinionated and I don't hesitate to speak my mind. Now what you read you may not always agree with and that's fine. Agreeing to disagree is healthy dialogue. What I write is not gospel but it is MOCA, Living Out Loud!!! So, I hope you Laugh, Learn, and Live Out Loud through this column. Do you have a question or concern that you want to address to Moca? If so email her at All inquires will be anonymous.

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