Relationships, GOOD relationships, are hard to come across these days. People constantly jump in and out of relationships, and then complain when they can’t seem to find the “perfect” mate; however, many people have had a good mate, but didn’t know how to treat them and then they end up with yet another failed relationship, or both parties rushed into a relationship which only ruined the happiness of growing together.
So how do you know when you have that perfect mate? How do you know when to start taking things to the next level without rushing into things?
Follow these simple 10 steps and you should have a successful, intimate relationship.
When you guys trust each other, you trust the other person with all of your secrets and you know that he/she won’t go running around town telling all of the business. You have that open line of communication with each other which helps each of you to become more comfortable each other, which establishes trust.
2. Respecting Each Other’s Boundaries
You guys know each other’s limits, and YOU DON’T cross them. You don’t push your mate to do what he/she doesn’t want to do.
3. You Love Each Other
I think this is pretty simple. When You love your mate, you would do anything for your mate. You care for each other and have each other’s best interest at heart.
4. You Guys Have Good Clean Fun
If you guys keep each other smiling ALL the time, this is a good sign, but if you only have fun when things lead to sex, then that is a red flag. When you guys can just simply have fun talking and walking on the beach or through the park, you have a keeper. The best things in a relationship are the mental and emotional things, it builds more of a connection between the two mates.
5. You Guys are Comfortable around each other
In order for a relationship to even start, you must feel comfortable around each other. If the two of you are always nervous around each other or you’re not totally comfortable sharing everything with each other, you need to reevaluate the relationship.
6. You Guys Know Each Other
When you take the time to really get to know each other and develop a strong and stable friendship, then you’re ready to go deeper into the relationship. This means you know what makes each other tick, what turns each on, what the person is turned off by, etc. This is the part we get to know all the basics and then dig deeper into what a person is about.
7. You Talk More Than You Touch
Communication is EVERYTHING. I can’t stress this enough. COMMUNICATE. COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE. If you two aren’t communicating, then the relationship will NOT last long, and texting does not, let me repeat, texting does not qualify as effective communicating. I’m sorry to say, but if you’re relationship is based off of texting messages, then you do not have a relationship.
8. You’ve Met Each Other’s People
You know how deeply he/she cares for you when he/she brings you around his loved ones. If he/she doesn’t want a committed relationship with you, and he/she just wants a hook-up, most likely he/she isn’t going to bring you around his/her people.
9. You’ve Seen The Best and Worst of Each Other.
The joy of really loving someone is seeing all of their flaws and still being attracted to them and loving them. If you can handle each other when you guys are upset, then you have a keeper.
10. You Make Each Other Happy
As long as you are truly happy and being treated with respect, then that is all that matters. If you’re not truly happy, then you should think about opting out of the relationship.